Finding Your Purpose

Aloha, and welcome to Hawaii. Where today I’m gonna talk about purpose.

And the reason why I’ve decided to talk about purpose today is that one of the things that I find in the feedback from clients and from people who come onto the website questionnaire is that after happiness,

the most significant thing that people are worried about is a sense of feeling lost, a loss of purpose. So in this brief video today I thought I’d share some of my thoughts on that.

We’ve just had an amazing shower rain and everything’s really fresh and gorgeous, and hopefully in the background you can hear the sound of the ocean, because Hawaii truly is a beautiful place.

And when I come here I know that I truly am living my purpose. But it took me a while to figure out what my purpose was.

I spent an awful lot of time in my late 30s and early 40s asking myself, what’s the point? What’s the point of being here? Why am I here? What’s the point?

And truly, I did feel lost. And it wasn’t until I started to study NLP and then started to get into Huna, that I began to have a sense of what it is I’m here for.

For me, the first round of my purpose, what it is I’m here for, when I first did the work, what came out was teaching.

And not to put a finer point on it, I nearly threw up, because when I was 16, my dad, who was a teacher, had taken me to one side and said, “If you ever want to make any money, don’t be a teacher,” like him, “and don’t be a nurse like your mother.”

So I’d always been very adverse to either teaching or nursing. And what I hadn’t really realised was that for ages I had been teaching anyway.

I’d been doing corporate trainings, I’d been teaching in a massage school, teaching aspects of biology for a friend of mine in the massage school, and aspects of massage itself.

So I had been teaching and I was working as a coach. And although in coaching we don’t teach, it is a form of teaching, because what you’re doing is you’re educating your client to come out with their own answers, to come out with the best of themselves.

So I was teaching, it just wasn’t teaching eight, nine, 10-year-olds in a school. It was a different way of doing it. And when I realised that, I also realised that I kind of ignored it for so long, I’d ignored what my purpose might be because I was thinking in a very pinpointed, one-directional fashion about what I was all about.

So one of the things I think is really important is, if you are feeling lost and you do have a sense of questioning why you’re here or what your purpose is, then really open up your vision, open up your concept of purpose and what it might be.

I’ve worked with people, for some people that are here really just to learn how to have fun. And that’s as valid a purpose as teaching or changing the world or empowering other people, or whatever it might be.

It’s what did you come into this lifetime, and it doesn’t matter whether you believe in past lives or not, but for this lifetime, what did you come in to do?

What did you come in to learn? What did you come in to find out? Who did you come in to be? But particularly, what did you come in to learn? Now, sometimes, you can resolve this with forms of past life regressions.

So hypnotherapy, or variants of working with a timeline. I do it myself using Huna techniques. So there’s a great Huna technique, it’s a release technique, called .

And we release anger and sadness and fear and guilt. But we also release stuff from past lives, generational stuff that’s been passed down through the family. We can release all that using energy.

So it’s perfectly possible to do that. Purpose sometimes is about releasing stuff from the past, whether it’s this past or whether it’s a karmic past, a previous life, or a generational past.

And it can be, as I say, it can be about empowering people, it can be about changing something in the world, it can be about helping people take responsibility for something, maybe helping people take responsibility for the environment.

When you’re looking for your purpose, one of the things to do is to look for the things that you’re passionate about. What is it that really gets you passionate and stirred up and motivated?

What is it that you invest a lot of time and money on, willingly? For me, long before I realised that teaching Huna was part of my purpose, I invested a lot of money and time to come to Hawaii and to learn all about Huna.

I had no sense that I was gonna teach it, but boy did I spend a lot of time and money learning how to do it. Then it dropped into place.

So if there’s something that you’re passionate about or something that you spend anyway, voluntarily, without being pushed, a lot of time and money on, then maybe that’s part of your purpose.

Purpose also can be to do with something that you learned as a kid. It can be something to do with a group that you’re part of.

If there’s a particular group that you spend a lot of time with, that you’re really committed to, what’s the purpose for that group? Because maybe your purpose is tied in to the purpose of that group.

Very often, when people are feeling lost, it’s not actually even about purpose. It’s about learning to know who you are right now. It’s not even about, what’s my purpose? It’s, who am I? If I really knew myself, who would I be?

Sure, we all have masks and we take on roles. So when my mom was alive I had a role as a daughter, and as a daughter there were certain things that I did differently than I did as myself out with my friends.

But we take on roles, we have masks. But who, at core, are you? Who really are you? Some people, they find it difficult to deal with that.

They don’t believe that they can know who they are because they have beliefs that they’re not good enough or they’re not worthy, and if they knew who they are, it would prove that they weren’t good enough or not worthy enough.

If that’s the problem for you, then get somebody to help you clear out that belief that you’re not good enough or you’re not worthy enough, because all of us, every single last one of us, is good enough.

All of us is worthy. It’s whether you own that or not, or whether you just play small and possibly fall into victim or into martyr, ’cause it’s easy enough to do.

So, in short, top tips. Look at things that you enjoy, that you’re passionate about, that you voluntarily spend time and money at.

Look at things that are innate talents, things you’ve always been good at, even if you don’t exploit them. I’ve always been good at teaching people. It took me a long time to work that one out.

But even as a kid, I used to teach my little friends how to read ’cause I could read and they couldn’t. So some people, they’re great singers, they’ve always been a great singer.

It’s not something they share, it’s not something they’ve been doing. Maybe that’s your purpose, to sing. Maybe it’s your purpose, as I say, to change the world in some way.

And, if you’re limiting yourself in knowing yourself and beveling in who you really are, get some help to clear that out. Because when you really step into the full expression of who you are, it’s so easy to decide and determine what your purpose is.

So I hope this has been useful. This will be the last video, or podcast, if you’re on the podcast, from Hawaii this time. So enjoy the sounds of the ocean in the background.

I’m certainly enjoying the sight of the sun setting over the ocean. It’ll probably go down in about 10 minutes and the colours are just beautiful.

And I hope, some day, to see you in Hawaii, to see you on a Huna training. Or, if you’re based in the UK, to see you on one of my Huna trainings in the UK.

Take care, lots of love, speak to you very soon.